pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“I used to say that the only thing better than being alone was to be seriously in love.”

—Jack Gilbert, The Paris Review, Fall/Winter 2005, No. 175

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Forgotten

Jul. 13th, 2017 12:59 pm
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Day by day and night by night we were together—all else has long been forgotten by me…”

—Walt Whitman, “Once I Pass’d Through a Populous City”

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

pjthompson: (lilith)

This morning on National Public Radio I was listening to Sherman Alexie discuss his troubled relationship with his mother and his new memoir, You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me. Memoirs, it seems to me, and Alexie affirmed, are for those who don’t get the chance to reconcile their complicated feelings towards parents and other loved ones. Oh yes, there are celebratory memoirs, to be sure, but when you come from a twisted root, it’s hard to write the sweet without delving into the sour.

The discussion triggered a lot of things for me. While I listened, I thanked God, thanked God, that for the last five years of my mother’s life, I was her caregiver. Those were difficult years, but… I got that sacred chance to reconcile my complicated feelings—and I think my mother did as well.

I used to call my mother the Dragon Lady with my friends who knew her well. She was hard-charging, always right, full of anger and unreconciled childhood crap of her own—but charming as hell, funny, creative, with an amazing life force, and a remarkable personality that drew people in and made them love her. Both sides were genuine, but she generally saved the Dragon Lady side for those she loved. People always told me I had the coolest mom. And I did. Except for when she was Dragon Lady.

I harbored so much anger and so much resentment for so many years. Therapy helped, but it didn’t leach the poison in me, just gave me mechanisms for coping with it.

In those last five years of Mom’s life, though, the roles were reversed. She was the child, I was the parent. At first, Dragon Lady was still there, fighting to retain her power, fighting to get the most out of life that she could in diminished circumstances. But even when she was most frustrating, she was so damned courageous. Always. For me, being a full-time caregiver, working full-time, and trying to find a way to get Mom to and from dialysis three times a week, I didn’t have the physical or emotional resources to carry my bad feelings forward. Gradually, I released them—or they released me.

And a wonderful thing happened. My mother began changing, too. The Dragon Lady never apologized for anything, ever; she said thank you rarely and never said “I love you” unless someone said it first. In her last years she became gentle, grateful, considerate in a way I’d never seen. She frequently told me “I love you, baby girl” without any prompting at all. And it became very easy to reply, “I love you, baby mom.” It wasn’t just that I didn’t have time for anger and resentment anymore—they really, truly went away. All that remained was love. For her, for me.

I won’t kid you. Those years were not easy. By the time my mom died I was stretched so thin I don’t know how much longer I could have gone on and not torn to shreds. But I really think my mother died in a state of grace, and that grace extended to me.

It nearly crushed me when she passed. But at least I had gotten that incomparable gift of reconciliation.

About a year after she died, I got the notion of writing a memoir, and worked in a fever for about a week. But it was impossible to write the sweet without the sour. I had purged myself of those hard feelings, and I didn’t miss them. They had poisoned my life for a long time and I really did not want them back. I let go of the memoir and held on to my state of grace and my reconciliation. I am so grateful for them. They are a rare and precious gift, mysterious as grace always is.

I love you, baby mom.

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Love art

Jun. 2nd, 2017 10:18 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“The more I think it over, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.”

—Vincent Van Gogh, quoted in Van Gogh: The Self-portraits by Fritz Erpel

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Excesses

May. 2nd, 2017 10:34 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“I am far from denying the destructive and disintegrating forces of passion. I will go so far as to agree that apart from the reproductive function, men have hitherto used love, on the whole, as an instrument of self-corruption and intoxication. But what do these excesses prove? Because fire consumes and electricity can kill are we to stop using them?”

—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, “The Evolution of Chastity” (tr. René Hague)

 

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“But everyone disappears, no matter who loves them.”

—Dave Eggers, What Is the What

 

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Heart home

Feb. 15th, 2017 09:38 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Come, live in my heart and pay no rent.”

—Samuel Lover, “Live in My Heart and Pay No Rent,” IV. Wooing and Winning

 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Unmasked

Oct. 19th, 2016 10:13 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Having perfected our disguise, we spend our lives searching for someone we don’t fool.”

—Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com

disguise4wp 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Unmasked

Oct. 19th, 2016 10:13 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Having perfected our disguise, we spend our lives searching for someone we don’t fool.”

—Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com

disguise4wp 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Aversion

Oct. 18th, 2016 10:44 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“My true friends have always given me that supreme proof of devotion, a spontaneous aversion for the man I loved.”

—Colette, Break of Day

 aversion4wp

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Aversion

Oct. 18th, 2016 10:44 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“My true friends have always given me that supreme proof of devotion, a spontaneous aversion for the man I loved.”

—Colette, Break of Day

 aversion4wp

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Bad kernel

Oct. 12th, 2016 10:01 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“The kernel of all jealousy is lack of love.”

—Carl Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections

 kernel4wp

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Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Bad kernel

Oct. 12th, 2016 10:01 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“The kernel of all jealousy is lack of love.”

—Carl Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections

 kernel4wp

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“There are only three things which make life worth living: to be writing a tolerably good book, to be in a dinner party of six, and to be travelling south with someone whom your conscience permits you to love.”

—Cyril Connolly, in a Daily Express symposium, quoted by Alec Waugh in “Self-Portrait – Nearing Sixty,” My Brother Evelyn & Other Profiles

south4WP@@@ 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“There are only three things which make life worth living: to be writing a tolerably good book, to be in a dinner party of six, and to be travelling south with someone whom your conscience permits you to love.”

—Cyril Connolly, in a Daily Express symposium, quoted by Alec Waugh in “Self-Portrait – Nearing Sixty,” My Brother Evelyn & Other Profiles

south4WP@@@ 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

I see you

Jun. 10th, 2016 09:30 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.”

—Meister Eckhart, Sermon IV: True Hearing

 eye4WP@@@

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

I see you

Jun. 10th, 2016 09:30 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.”

—Meister Eckhart, Sermon IV: True Hearing

 eye4WP@@@

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Hamsters

Apr. 28th, 2016 10:21 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“There is no reciprocity. Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters. Hamsters don’t love anyone.”

—Alice Thomas Ellis, Home Life

 hamsters4WP@@@

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Hamsters

Apr. 28th, 2016 10:21 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“There is no reciprocity. Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters. Hamsters don’t love anyone.”

—Alice Thomas Ellis, Home Life

 hamsters4WP@@@

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

In love

Mar. 24th, 2016 09:44 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Perhaps the feelings that we experience when we are in love represent a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should be.”

—Anton Chekhov, Note-Book of Anton Chekhov (S17:14)

love4WP@@@ 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

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