Chrysalis, if chrysalis wasn’t such an overused word

[pjthompson]

The first time I had a writer’s block of years’ duration was after my father died. I realized, in hindsight and after the words started flowing again, that I was blocked because I needed to redefine myself as a writer. I couldn’t tell the same old stories in the same old way. I had changed; my subject matter had changed; my voice was developing in new ways. When the words came back, it was to write something totally new—and when they came back, they came in a flood. I could hardly transcribe fast enough.

The good news was, after the torrent of words started flowing again, I was able to return to some of the older ideas and reshape them to my new self.

Now I am in the midst of another writer’s block of years’ duration. The words stopped first when I became so consumed by taking care of my mother that I didn’t have time for anything but caregiving and my job and trying to keep life together. My mother has been gone two years now, and still the words won’t come. I’ve poked hopefully at several of the things I’d been working on before crisis descended on our lives, and although I like several of those things, nothing happens.

A couple of weeks ago I had the same old epiphany: I need to write something new. I’m not the same person. I have a new subject matter. What that subject matter is hasn’t emerged. It’s not time yet. I still have to be a while longer in the space I’m in. I suspect, as with the last time, when those new stories emerge, they will come to me instinctually rather than intellectually. I won’t figure out the new subject matter in my head because it’s a soul process. And whatever it is, whenever it happens, it will be exciting to see.

Patience is what’s required of me now. And the ability to let myself be. And see.

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

Comments

[sartorias.livejournal.com]

Here's wishing your wellspring filled soon!

[frigg.livejournal.com]

It will come. :)

I remember your beautiful poems and am looking forward to seeing more from you.

[pjthompson.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[pjthompson.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I have to believe it will come, too.

[mount-oregano.livejournal.com]

Just a thought: for me and some other writers, not having our parents around meant more freedom. There are things I wouldn't say in my mother's presence, just because she's Mom. But without my parents around, I can say anything. She will never hear it. I'm totally free. That's not actually an easy state to be in.

[pjthompson.livejournal.com]

It is. That freedom is an important and burdensome thing.

I briefly considered doing a memoir, and for a few days there the words were flowing fast. But they stopped—not choked off, they just petered out. Ultimately I realized that taking care of her for five years, being in essence the mom in that situation, had burned away all the anger and other negative stuff and I really didn't need to go there again. It would be tantamount to recreating it simply for the sake of recreating it, and I was really glad it was gone, frankly. I'm a healthier person to have it gone. The past will inevitably find its way into whatever I do next, and I'm fine with that. I'm just going to let it seep in organically rather than doing a formal visitation.

I will find my subject matter again in time. I feel that's inevitable, too.

[mnfaure.livejournal.com]

You are a writer and a wonderful one, at that. Your words will come again. I look forward to reading them. Already it gives me great pleasure to read the compassion you have towards yourself during this time. *hugs*

[pjthompson.livejournal.com]

Thank you, love.