Thorns

Feb. 18th, 2021 02:31 pm
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)
Random quote of the day:

“You want to find that spot. I often say that to people who are having really difficult relationships with their families. When people look for the soft spot, it can break the deadlock and they can begin to talk to each other again. Sure, they avoid the sticky subjects completely, but they find the place where they still love each other, which is always there waiting to be found.”

—Pema Chödrön, The Lion’s Roar, October 15, 2017



Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Desus and Mero, Beyoncé, or the Marine Corps Marching Band. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Bowl-o-rama

Aug. 1st, 2013 09:34 am
pjthompson: quotes (quotei)

Random quote of the day:

“Having a family is like having a bowling alley installed in your brain.”

—Martin Mull, Newsweek, April 3, 1978

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Disclaimer:  The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Siegfried and Roy, Leonard Maltin, or the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

 

Mirrored from Better Than Dead.

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This journey is actually split into two parts: the first, a short discussion of this book:

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and maybe a little bit about this one, as well:

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Kathleen Bartholomew, the sister of sff writer Kage Baker, has been carrying on Kage's legacy since Ms. Baker's untimely death. She has put together collections of Kage's stories, done the finishing touches on manuscripts left behind, and has been completing books begun by Kage. Subterranean Press has been publishing them. Kathleen's wonderful blog chronicles in touching and lively detail the life she and her sister lived together, but also talks about the writers' life, life in general, the Faire circuit, and spooky travels on California's I-5. It's a great loving stew of many flavors and exotic ingredients. Kathleen is a talented writer, often lyrical and moving, and her blog really is a delicious treat. I cannot recommend it highly enough. (I've also syndicated it here on LJ as [livejournal.com profile] kage_baker.)

Now, as to the second part of this journey. Not quite as lyrical and moving, but I never promised these posts about journeying around my room would be. In fact, one might even call the next part of our story a sordid journey into family politics. If one was a Drama Queen. I'll leave it to you as to how to label it.

The Sordid Truth. )
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"All this time I thought I'd been lying to myself, but I was just kidding myself."

—Peter Serafinowicz on Twitter


In yesterday's post, I wrote:

And then there are the stories my father used to tell, some of them true (sort of), and some of them more creative, and the screwy family legacy that's caused...Ah, but that's a story for another day. Perhaps tomorrow.

My father, my biological father, had already lived a good long while by the time I was born—a child of his senior years. He was many things, amongst those things a great storyteller. Some of the stories he told about his early life were even true, but I learned in my twenties that I had to take everything he had ever told me with a large grain of salt. Dad was a storyteller, not a historian. Now and again, in my research I'll come across a factoid and say, "What do you know? Dad may actually have been telling the truth that time." Other times I'll come across information that lets me know that what Dad said about the family history had been—how shall I put it?—highly colored by imagination and the desire to tell a good tale.

Like the story about my father's first wife, the mother of my half-brother, J. (who was actually only two years younger than my own mother).

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The other day Peter Serafinowicz (serafinowicz) tweeted, "All this time I thought I'd been lying to myself, but I was just kidding myself."

I've been pondering it ever since, one way or another. It's become something of a mantra in recent days—or at least, the litmus paper that I slap onto each gooey life illusion of mine to see what colors come up. Results still pending, so I won't be going into all that, but I've been thinking about that remark in another context, my other obsession du jour: family history. Family history is sometimes fraught with illusion and projected realities. Nothing is ever as simple as it seems, even historic puzzles. You must take many things on faith alone, and often the things you find out change everything you thought you knew.

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pjthompson: poll ya (riddler)
[Poll #876384]

Families...

View Answers
are the backbone of society
0(0.0%)
are the backbone of neurosis
0(0.0%)
are the only thing that matters in the end
0(0.0%)
are minefields
0(0.0%)
can be inherited or chosen
2(10.5%)
want what's best for you, as long as it's what they want
0(0.0%)
will be there for you when no one else will
0(0.0%)
can rip you up the most
1(5.3%)
can be a pain, but not having any is painful
0(0.0%)
are always dysfunctional, it's just a matter of degree
0(0.0%)
are contradictory and chaotic, just like life
1(5.3%)
are a rich source of subject matter
0(0.0%)
remind us that the most important thing in life is to love and be loved in return
0(0.0%)
are ticky
0(0.0%)
Other (propagate in comments?)
0(0.0%)
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Writing: I dreamed Friday night that I was having a conversation with another writer and talking about how in my first drafts I have the bad habit of beginning sentences with "And." I way overuse it, and it's one of those things I'm constantly hacking out of second drafts. I woke up Saturday morning and logged on to the Online Writing Workshop to find I had a review of Charged with Folly which told me I began too many sentences with "And," and I should really work on that. I had to laugh. It must have bugged her so much she tunneled into my dreams. And I agree with her. ☺

Families: Technically speaking, I misspoke yesterday in my gratitude post when I said my mom was about the only family I have left. I should have said significant family, because I've got gallons and gallons of cousins out there. Almost all are strangers to me who live in other states (my mom and Aunt Maxine were the rebels who moved from the encrusted enclave in Utah to California). Of the two cousins I was ever close to, I'm only still in touch with one, and even she lives quite a ways away. With her mom, Maxine, gone, we hardly ever see each other.

I also have some nieces and a nephew out there somewhere. All but one of them were older than me (my half-brother was only two years younger than my mother) and their mother didn't approve of my family—we were the poor relations she didn't wish to expose her children to. I saw them semi-frequently when I was a kid, at my brother Jack's insistence, but once he and his wife divorced in my early teens, the kids and wife disappeared from my life (and, I suspect, largely from Jack's). He's passed on now. I have no idea where any of them are. I didn't even know Jack had died until years after the fact.

Families. Messy.

Fortunately, I have good "family of choice," some of whom have been my friends three-quarters of my life.

Vacation: I finally feel like I've gotten my energy back. The first couple of days, even before I'd eaten turkey, I sat down in the chair to read and promptly fell asleep—in the middle of the day, something that's extremely atypical of me. It reaffirmed my decision to take some serious downtime this weekend. I've gotten some things done, but mostly I've perfected the art of sloth.

And I hope you all had the weekends you wished for!

ETA: For those of you who love the Geico Cavemen as much as I do, something more on vacations:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6j9U0qP7H3g

And this one, my favorite in the series. The expression on the actor's face at the end is just priceless.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZrjr4A-ASQ
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"When a writer is born into a family, the family is doomed."

—Czeslaw Milosz


Depends on the family. Depends on the writer. Depends on the writer's subject matter. But yes.

Discuss.

:-)

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